Tips for Yellow and Black Parties!

As you know, the Yellow and Black Group hosts hosts piss & kink parties just for men (often called “Piss and Moan”), and parties for all genders and orientations (called “Drench!).

Here are a few suggestions for making the most of these parties.

If you  bring your own beer (in cans!) please put them in the refrigerator.  The refrigerator is “just take what you brought” (on the honor system).  The main cooler will have water, juice, tea, and/or other beverages — please help yourself!

If you have never been to SF Catalyst, a few tips:  the building (1060 Folsom, between 6th and 7th Street) is unmarked, but is grey, with a reddish door.  Don’t look for a doorbell, just come on in.  Be sure to bring your ID, showing that you are at least 18 years of age (and at least 21 if you want to enjoy beer).  We hope to be able to accept credit cards at the door, but please bring cash, just in case.

Of course, we encourage you to dress (or undress) for the occasion.  Our locker room upstairs features comfortable, convenient (waterproof) electronic wristfobs.  If you plan to shower after you play, you might want to bring a towel.

The SF Catalyst space is well-equipped as a dungeon, with bondage tables, slings, spanking benches, cages, St. Andrews crosses and more.  You are welcome to bring your own bondage or SM gear if you like, but BDSM is not an essential part of the evening.

Please respect the space:  confine wet play to the large, watersports-friendly shower, or other designated wet play spaces.

Please also respect your fellow players.  You can recognize the autonomy and humanity of someone, even when you are doing a domination scene in which you call him a faggot pervert while pissing up his ass.

Tips for All Piss Parties!

Here are a few suggestions for attending wet-friendly play parties at all locations.  These are adapted with gratitude from the Code of Conduct for “Wet n Hot” (

Be aware that some drugs can pass through your system to your drinkers.  Please do not let anyone drink your piss if you are taking antibiotics.  If you are particularly sensitive to specific drugs, ask before ingesting.

Do not take pictures or videos without the explicit consent of anyone who might possibly be recorded.

Please don’t do scat.  No judgment, but it can create clean-up and residual smell problems, it can raise health and safety concerns, and it really turns some folks off badly.

Share the tubs and other play equipment. Take a break and let everyone have some fun. Be friendly and considerate.  Sometimes we lose track of time when we’re hot and horny. If you want to get in a tub or a sling and someone else is there, just ask for a turn. And don’t just climb in on top of someone without asking.

Ya gotta give to get.  Everybody wants to get wet, but turnabout is fair play. After you’ve gotten your share, keep the energy going by wettin’ down another buddy in need.

Be kind when rejecting someone’s advances. You may well get approached by folks that you don’t find attractive. You can say “No” without hurting people. Just say something like, “Sorry, not right now,” or gently move their hand away

Don’t force yourself on people. If someone lets you know that they don’t want to play with you, don’t keep insisting. If you do, we may insist that you leave.

Dirty old men need piss, too.  It isn’t going to hurt you to give some to a guy who may not be as popular as others. For you, it’s just one load. For him, it may be the highlight of his night. Some day you may be in his shoes!

Lots of chatter in play areas ruins the mood for others. Please chat in our social areas instead.

Leave your cologne and smelly deodorant at home.

Please clean up after yourself.  Just because we’re pigs doesn’t mean that we are pigs.

Come dressed for the occasion.  Don’t come to the party wearing anything that you don’t want to get wet!

Drink, drink, drink… hydrate, hydrate, hydrate.  Start tanking up about two hours before the party so that you’re prepared and ready to piss. If you wait till you arrive, you won’t go for an hour or so and you’ll be up all night peeing when you get home.

If you aren’t having fun at a piss party, you are probably being too shy.  Assume everyone is shy, so take the initiative to approach people. If you ask, it’s yes or no. If you don’t ask, it’s always no. If you aren’t getting any yes’s, you aren’t asking enough!

Don’t bring a lot of money or valuables to the party. Don’t leave them in your car either.

No glass containers.  This is an important safety issue.

If you need assistance or don’t understand the rules, ask a volunteer!

Have fun, be respectful, and piss, fist and fuck the cum out of each other!